I already posted this month, and my reflection on this giant waiting room we’re in together still stands, but because it is the last day of the year, of THIS year, this interminable year, I want to leave you with one more reflection.
Thursday, December 31, 2020
Interminable
Saturday, December 5, 2020
Incarnation
The Incarnation.
Sunday, November 8, 2020
St. Joan of Arc
Friends, it has been several months. It's been several...difficult months. We've been on this journey together. I wanted to just share with you something that happened yesterday that caught me and--as many things have in the past two months--forced me into staying in the moment. I thought you might find it something worth meditating yourself.
I've been starting the process of my practice of spiritual direction, and it's been a joy. I could not have started this at a more chaotic time, really, and that's nearly undermined my efforts, but I am determined that nothing should keep me from the mandates God has given me: to serve others and lift up those who need lifting. I am learning and lifting myself, y'all.
Yesterday, before finding out about Biden and Harris--literally a minute before--I had closed my direction session with a Catholic Center friend with a prayer to St. Joan of Arc. Many of you may know this most famous of female saints--born to a peasant family, determined herself to fight for right, and unafraid to put herself on the line. My friend had mentioned her as part of a litany of saints which had always fascinated her and inspired, and I realized I know so many who would be inspired by this 15th century woman.
This was the prayer I read, which came from the 40 days of prayer website, a Catholic Cancer support group:
In the face of your enemies,
in the face of harassment,
ridicule, and doubt,
you held firm in your faith.
Even in your abandonment,
alone and without friends,
you held firm in your faith.
Even as you faced your own mortality,
you held firm in your faith.
I pray that I may be as bold in my beliefs as you, St. Joan.
I ask that you ride alongside me in my own battles.
Help me be mindful
that what is worthwhile can be won when I persist.
Help me hold firm in my faith.
Help me believe in my ability to act well and wisely.
Amen.
Sunday, August 23, 2020
Seeing Myself for the First Time
During quarantine I have watched out my window at winter turn into the bright green of spring, and then that velvet green turn into something lush and leafy, with all the heat that counters the breeziness of the previous season. In recent days I have watched leaves start to one by one twirl down from the tops of trees, heading toward fall. In a way it feels like a slow or fast motion movie, depending on the day and how you feel.
But this week for me it feels special, because I have also reached a 5-year mark of learning and growth present in my rainbow baby, my youngest and long-sought child. She was born just as my greatest mentor died, and now we are five years on, and so much water under that proverbial bridge. So much. Yet these five months have felt like a learning of five years in some ways. Putting both time frames side by side I see parallels and suddenly my mind opens up like a lotus or some slow but sure opening flower, bent toward the sun. I see a long process of learning from suffering that has come to fruition in patience, fortitude, and perhaps most important for me now, forebearance.
A waiting, a holding back but paying close attention to the way someone talks about himself, or the concerns she might have, or the prejudices another might hold...but being able to know in my core what's wrong, what's right, and being able to stand in the middle to see. Not to agree, but to see, to really see.
Now what I see is God's eye, and see as well this has been a lifelong trend in my life: encounter of this place of pain in the souls I have met. Right now this has opened up in ways that, for awhile, caused me deep and abiding pain. Now I acknowledge this pain, and see what it teaches me. I acknowledge the wrongs around me in foul ideas coming out of this pain or ignorance, and I acknowledge that if I look, I see God present, filling in those dark gaps with the good humankind can wreathe around what matters. I am understanding the space I take up better now because of this, and this means I can walk ahead into the path I've been given, regardless of where it goes. Regardless of the fact we will never be the same again.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020
Darkness and Light
And first my lord Brother Sun,
Who brings the day; and light you give to us through him.
How beautiful is he, how radiant in all his splendor!
Of you, Most High, he bears the likeness.
In the heavens you have made them, bright
And precious and fair.
Thursday, June 18, 2020
Release
Saturday, May 23, 2020
God's Eye
Delio echoes Aquinas as well, something Rohr also points out and connects: “God brought things into being in order that God’s goodness might be communicated to creatures, and be represented by them; and because that goodness could not be adequately represented by one creature alone, God produced many and diverse creatures, that what was wanting to one in the representation of the divine goodness might be supplied by another. For goodness, which in God is simple and uniform, in creatures is manifold and divided.”
I have spent many Saturdays now walking out somewhere under the sky: on a trail, in a garden, in neighborhoods, on campus greens. When I present pictures of these in social media I do it with the intent to reach my family, strewn across the world, and friends everywhere, too. To show you a beauty that might lift you as it lifted me. Not to “show off,” or create the much-touted “my-life-is-better-that-yours” attitude social media can and does often portray. Oh no—I am most certainly opening myself up to you and aiming or vision through a God’s eye level, a reminder of the ways in natural beauty— even ordinary beauty, unexpected beauty, in the fresh and green and in the old and worn—we find God.
I pray for you today that you find this moment, and many to come, day by day: anchors to steady you. A way home. An assurance that the rocky journey will lead you secure to where you belong.
Thursday, April 9, 2020
Stay here and keep watch with me
I share this in light of the fact that in 2014, I miscarried during Good Friday, and that experience has never left me the same: the pain I felt as I kept watch was a sharing in suffering, but it was also my suffering. I felt the story I'd only until then celebrated cerebrally or spiritually--I'd felt it in my body. When all three elements of my existence came together, I saw in a whole new way what it means to suffer with, to feel compassion. In this situation we find ourselves in, the same might be true: we feel a compassion--we hope everyone does on some level--with those many who have died during this time around the world and here in the States. We feel a mourning of a loss of so many other things in our lives. We know it is a time that will eventually pass, and we grow weary of time, and impatient of its passing, and we fall asleep. But some remain in friendship, some keep watch, and in turn, we keep watch together. There may be many reasons for those who won't keep watch; some of those reasons are good ones, and some are selfish. Either way, forgiveness asked or given is part of the story. To ignore that part of the story would be a great oversight on our part, and so I practice it daily, with myself. Excruciating, isn't it--our frailty?
Our reality is still here, in this moment. We will find it hard to stay. To keep watch. Of each other and of ourselves, of the story we find familiar, of the friendship betrayed and forgiven. Of the death of many things. And of a rising away from this. Don't miss this, though--the story as it unfolds. Pray to remain steadfast, so that you and I can emerge from it to tell the story once more, in a new way, of how we remained together, in spite of a world hellbent to tear us apart. It's how the disciples must have felt watching their story unfold, unknowing of its conclusion and of how far that story would go to enter into our human weaknesses.
Tuesday, March 24, 2020
Wrapped and Tangled
The chill of early Spring brings on the physical need to cover up, but the emotional toil of what’s happening equally brings on a need. For many the blanket comes in prayer and spiritual communion; for some yoga, meditation, creativity. Of course, our comfort can come in all these things, and we’ve been given a unique opportunity to practice even more, in a way we would never have before. Tangled up in life’s busyness, in our self-importance, we’d not see the beauty of taking significant time with our selves. I think in some cases there are those who struggle with the quiet and with who they’re encountering within themselves. Facing your less than best self is humbling, a bitter swig.
Fortunate for us, in the media age, we can connect faster than ever. I am humbled and grateful for smart, savvy, humorous friends with whom I chat regularly, checking in on each other from afar, and with family connectivity across the continent. It’s a little miracle helping us bear the burden of time and fear. I pray we remain safe and healthy, but even more, I pray we remember this lesson of savoring connection, time, and meeting our souls where they are, even when we return to whatever our new normal will be beyond this moment.
Saturday, February 29, 2020
Exhausted
Then we have the problems of the world looming in on us as a community: illness and strife in many forms. Incompetence at all levels where we would normally trust our experience and our well-being. The kinds of things that make anyone want to fundamentally question their experience and existence and purpose.
It’s exhausting.
Having said that, it’s also life-molding and life-changing. Something is happening to our synapses and our souls when we engage fully in our experience, when we learn how to draw boundaries and consider how to communicate and share in life’s great pageant. And I am learning to pray not merely over these moments but through them, to become fully aware of God’s presence in even the more difficult moments of life. It’s become most helpful for me to have a practice of meditation before, during, and after my day for when those moments get tense, or I have to think on my feet, so that when the time comes, I can, with a little nudge, see and feel and even taste God’s presence.
As we endeavor together, pray for me, and I will pray for you. Sending love out to all.
Saturday, January 4, 2020
Pictures of You
Seems like whenever I go and visit the place I called home for 24 years, some kind of song from my youth gets lodged in my head as a part of the experience. It’s not every time, but happens more often, maybe because now I’ve been in this place I have made into a home 23 years. Something is happening in the balance of my mind about place—calling for music and beauty to fill it in.
When my uncle died suddenly in 2008, the song that wouldn’t leave my ears was Pink Floyd’s “On the Turning Away.” It made sense to me almost immediately at the time, and stayed with me through the wake and funeral, through the long delayed train ride back to Georgia. Other times I’d link onto a song just to accompany the moments—beach, park, family visits. This year for Christmas it was The Cure’s “Pictures of You,” and like “On the Turning Away,” it made immediate sense to me. It came in strains and solidified itself on the plane back, when one of the in-flight offerings was a 40th anniversary Cure concert in England. What caught me off guard was that the song itself showed me more clearly how I was living inside of a memory and beyond it— how being present can make you completely yourself.
This one is hard to explain, though: what had happened was that an Uncle I had not seen since I was five came with the majority of his family to America to visit with us and see snow and be a part of the life my parents and their siblings had built in a new country. It was the first time they’d all really experienced snow in that way, and the first time I’d met my aunt, who’d married my uncle after I’d gone in 1978. Like so many immigrant gatherings before, though, this was a coming to know and encounter one another, a feast, a kind of saudade come to life. As I looked around the room in between discussions with cousins and my aunt, who I truly enjoyed chatting with in Portuguese, I realized that all of this was sinking into my memory as it happened, in the very moment of its occurrence. I realized that the many years that had passed since my childhood visit to Portugal and the times back and forth between then-home and now-home had formed me, was itself a discernment. I found myself inside the picture I knew I would see someday again and think, oh yes, I remember this well. What a great time we had. What a wonderful encounter between us. I was seeing what Robert Smith near-crooned when he sang “I’ve been living so long with my /pictures of you/That I almost believe that they’re real….”
Maybe some of you have experienced something like this; maybe the holidays bring it out even more. I have been boarding planes for so long I have had so many opportunities to get to this space in time, to see it in my soul. It’s tiring, too—it emotionally wears me even as it builds me. Even so I wish for you this kind of sublime auld lang syne meets saudade meets some other undefinable thing, as the days and weeks pass into this new decade. Peace and All Good.